Our Marriage Dinner

We had 20 tables at Furama Hotel.

His Dad is working in Batam & seldom comes back to Singapore, I had to wait another month which was the 4th month of my pregnancy to wait for his dad to be back.. In the end, his father also didn't turn up to our wedding..

As a woman & pregnant, u could have gotten married when u were 3 months pregnant, (which wouldn't even show) or at 4 months which is the time u have started to gain weight?

His mum is VERY traditional & my family is very open.. whatever date we agreed on, the mother would say it casted out a person from the family, my mum was then kinda frustrated & said, 'this cheong that cheong, might as well dun get married'.. In the end, we decided on a date that 'Cheong' my mum which is Rat year..

'Remember' when she didn't even fork out a single cent!!

who gave us money to get married? Javen's brother's friend/colleague lent us 6k to book the hotel & take the wedding photos..

It was lucky that my total bill came out at 13k+ & my total angbao was 19k+.. so it definitely covered everything..

That's how I got married.

I deserve better than that

I didn't need to elaborate.. Just that incident will be able to say what kinda guy he is..

So, I taked it. I accepted it. Fate did it.

We got married more or less coz i was pregnant & I also came to a conclusion that he does love me.. And I really did love him too! for the sacrifices i've made & for those who know me, u guys noe best!

B4 we got married when i told him he had to let his mum know 1st, he called his mum on the hp coz he has always been staying with me & told her.. he passed the phone to me & u noe what the mum said after she told me about what i can't do during pregnancy? '你们要结婚我一分钱都不会出的，他哥哥结婚我也跟他将一样的东西’wtf?!!!

My Separation

Hi guys, i know many of u will want to know what's going on? why like tat? weren't u both doing well? Well, let me start from THE REAL START;





me & my husband got together when we both came out of prison, we both are changed peeps, we started hanging out with my good old brother allan & his girlfriend which is now his wife and divorced.. we were on tagging (Which means early release from prison & wearing something like a watch on your leg) like the photo.. allan is on the left & my husband (Javen Tan) on the right
My husband and I are kinda heavy drinkers.. we need to drink every night, but he tends to be VERY verbally abusive to me when he drinks..

I did a very wrong mistake was when we both were at a pub after work one day, b4 we got married and stuff, i was walking to the toilet & a group of guys just turned to look at me, not talk to me or anything like tat.. when i returned to my seat, he asked me if i knew who they were & i said no, he then asked me why they looked at me, i said i had no idea.. further on, when I was smoking outside, he played pool with one of them & guess wat? it became a quarrel & they all came outside to kinda 'fight'.. 5 of them were against him alone.. they fought & as a natural reaction of a woman, i pulled one of them back & said can you guys stop fighting.. Javen, stopped the fight & pulled me to a corner & shouted to my face RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE OF BOAT QUAY, 'u fucking prostitute u like people to touch u arh'?

Booom!

That was it.

I walked away & let him continue his fucking fight.. but i called his friends to ask them to assist him..


The next day,

he called me NOT to apologise but explain his reactions as he didn't want me to get involved or hurt in the fight & that was the only thing he could have said to make me go..

HELLO~!!!!! I DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT!!!

I have an uncle which is my mum's oldest brother moved into their new place yesterday.. Just he and his wife, as he used to be living with his son & due to issues with daughter-mother-in-law (as usual), they bought their own 3NG HDB flat in Bedok.. 3NG normally refers to units with attached master-room toilet.. Corner units which also have toilets are normally bigger and they are referred to as 3A unit.. They actually spent 50K on renovations!!

Its sad that children aren't able to get along with the old nowadays but for my instance I feel its becoz of how the world has actually grown & some of the elderly hasn't really changed like how the world changes.. Difficult to understand? Aiyah, just means their way of thinking is History! lolx of coz i'm not referring to all, like mother-in-laws like my mum is so open-minded.. we can drink, smoke, club together.. which is definitely a better way of getting to know your child & their group of friends better.. if you know your child is slighty wilder than others.. come on, just let go a little.. as how my situation was when I was young, my dad used to be very strict, during secondary school days, i had to be home after school by 3pm, i could only go out on 1 weekend & had to be back by 7pm.. my friends were all going to Canto for tea dance & stuff & i had to be back by 7pm!! i didn't get to go though & when i came back late, i got whacked! belt, cane, wooden ruler was the usual tools.. once, i was slapped infront of my friend & my father's friend without even listening to any explanation.. i hated him. seriously..

so, ever since my mum left him, it was the time of my total freedom & that was where i really lost it.. i came back really late, i got into drugs & it took me twice to get caught and ultimately change.. i lost 3 years of my youth to prison..

My precious princess is now coming 14 months! Hectic sia!

Its been 1year and 1month since i've blogged.. lolx! having a great time now.. great friends, great family & don't need to think too much on my career as my husband has been quite responsible with finances & stuff.. he just got he's commission & he gave half of it to me & another quarter to my mum.. very decisive ya? am i lucky or what? rofl!

Tasha has been such a darling, but she's really spoilt & loves to pretend to cry when she doesn't get what she wants.. Look at her on the left <---------- it was taken on her birthday.. she imitates really fast like one incident was that she loves to take my mum's alarm clock so my mum said, aiyah can u stop taking the alarm clock, guess what? she put back the alarm clock & mumbled 'ai..yah..'! my mum got a shock! she can say simple words like, shoes, juice, ball ball, mama, dada & please..

Thought of bringing her for a swim but it looks like its gonna rain.. she loves water too! And she doesn't cry when she goes for a haircut.. but she's REALLY active.. she can't sit still in the car or even at home.. seems like her butt is on fire!

I've learned alot from her.. I've learned how to be patient not only with her but with people around me, she has taught me about responsibility, she also taught me alot on affection & love.. Its so amazing how a child could really change me like that.. She's just so precious, even when i have to leave her at home just for a few hours with my full time helper, i start thinking about her and think if my maid abuses her or anything else.. I haven't even gone for pedicure for around 2months! which i normally do every fortnight!

Will update again soon.. I hope..